If infidelity, conflict or emotional disconnection has shaken your relationship, you don't need generic counselling. You need structured, specialist couples therapy that helps you decide whether to repair, rebuild, or part with clarity. In-person in Yorkshire; online worldwide.
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An affair blows up the old relationship. There's no putting it back the way it was — and you shouldn't try.The real question is whether this crisis becomes the end, or starts something more honest, connected and alive.
I help couples recover after infidelity with a structured, compassionate approach that balances accountability with repair. We work on rebuilding trust step by step - not by forgetting what happened but facing it with courage, truth, and practical tools that create emotional safety again.
It's rarely about the dishes, the sex, or who left the socks on the floor. The real problem is the "stance–stance–dance" patten underneath.
A stance is what you do when you feel threatened — your automatic way of protecting yourself. When your stance meets your partner's, you lock into a dance that takes over.
One of the most common? Some flavour of "Pursue–withdraw". The harder you push, the faster they retreat. Round and round you go until you're both exhausted and miles apart.
My role is to name it clearly, show you the consequences of staying stuck, and coach you in new moves that rebuild trust and intimacy. You want closeness? You've got to earn it – by doing something different. That's the work.
Too much talk. Not enough change. Therapists let couples "explore their feelings" while they keep hurting each other. Insight feels good but it isn't the same as change.
You don't get a better relationship by understanding the problem - you get it by practising the new moves, over and over, until safety and trust return. That's exactly why I use Imago - not for talk, but for real change.
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If your relationship is characterised by fighting, blaming, bickering, silences, distractions, and even threats to leave or an affair, don't give up hope and don't settle.
Read my book to understand what's really going on and what to do to get things back on track. A definitive guide and personal account of how to get through the often painful second stage of your relationship, the Power Struggle, and build a truly profound loving connection with your partner.
I was asked by the BBC to review the 4th series of the popular BBC show 'Couples Therapy' on their Points of View programme – it's now on BBC iPlayer (the episode aired on 20 / 10 / 24).
I love that the 'Couples Therapy' show gives ordinary people a taste of what couples therapy is really like. We see some real New York couples of all ages bravely working through their issues and showing a lot of vulnerability.
Vulnerability and openness is what it takes to come back together – and the Imago method can achieve that for you!
Far too many of us are putting up with sub-standard, painful relationships, so I really enjoyed talking to Brainz Magazine for their Valentine's Edition about the Power Struggle stage of relationships and what you need to know about it to avoid divorce and/or settling for less than you deserve.
To exit the Power Struggle you must first understand what it is, which is just a stage on the way to real, true love. You can learn how to master this stage (without going to couples therapy)by reading my book, Power Struggle to Peaceful Couple.
It works if you are both committed to making it work. Many of us are sold a story about love that simply isn't true. Love is not a destination that you arrive at. And it's not a prize that you win. Love is a daily practice. It involves compromise on both sides. It involves listening – really listening – to what your partner needs, and becoming a team.
Whether you're looking for couples therapy, individual therapy or dating coaching, we will chat about what your struggles are right now, and what has led up to them. I will offer my thoughts on how to move forward, with or without my support. You will come away with a larger perspective on your situation, and some actionable next steps.
If you are in the Harrogate, Ilkley or Leeds area, I offer weekly or fortnightly couples therapy in-person in Otley or in Harrogate, or online via Zoom. I offer a free 15-minute consultation over video chat or the phone, during which you'll get a feel for what it's like to work with me. I can assess your needs and work out if we're a good fit for weekly or fortnightly sessions.
I work with couples who want a fundamental and long-lasting change in the way they relate to one another. If you want to put a short-term sticking plaster on your relationship, I'm probably not the therapist for you.
